Child Centered Solutions

CCS Hosts Vintage Sale

CCS — Fri, 23 Sep 2011 21:07:02 +0000

On July 15-16, 2011 CCS hosted a Vintage Sale featuring clothing, shoes, jewelry and accessories from the President of our Board of Directors, Jody Stahancyk’s personal collection. Shoppers were treated to finds from almost every era of the 20th century. CCS was able to raise over $1,000 through the help of our generous supporters in the community.

Books for Teens about Same-Sex Parents

CCS — Fri, 23 Sep 2011 18:53:45 +0000

Books for Young Adults about Same-Sex Parents

CCS — Fri, 23 Sep 2011 18:42:46 +0000

Helping Your Child Through a Divorce

CCS — Fri, 23 Sep 2011 16:07:18 +0000

Each year thousands of children experience their parent’s divorce and the break up of their fundamental family unit. How parents handle their own separation and divorce affects their child’s ability to get through this transition as well. How a child reacts to their parents divorce depends on their age, personality and the circumstances that surround the separation and divorce. Divorce has an effect on everyone involved, and the initial reaction often includes feelings of shock, sadness, frustration, anger and worry. Children who are able to successfully navigate through this difficult time will improve their ability as a young adult to handle stress, and become more tolerant and flexible.

Things a parent can do to help their child through their divorce include:

- Limit disruptions to your child’s daily routine

- Keep visible conflict, legal talk and heated discussions away from the child

- Do not blame the other parent or speak negatively about them in front of the child, save it for private therapy sessions or conversations with friends outside the home

- Ensure both parents stay a part of the child’s life

- Do not make your child a part of your support group, even if they seem like they want to be. Save that position for friends, family, clergy and professionals.

Practice what you are going to say to your child and remember that the discussion should be tailored to their age, maturity and temperament. As soon as you are certain of your plans to separate, break the news to your child that their parents will soon be living separately. If possible, both parents should be available for this conversation. Leave out any feelings of anger, guilt and blame and focus your attention on your child’s needs. Both parents must ensure to the child that their decision to divorce is not their fault. Children often feel responsible for their parents’ break-up, so reassuring your child that your decision to separate has nothing to do with them is essential.

Explain to your child that parents can’t divorce their children and that no matter what you will always love them, even if you aren’t with your spouse anymore. Explain the changes that are about to happen in your child’s life to prepare them. Be prepared to answer any questions appropriately and truthfully. Children do not need to know all the dirty details about their parents divorce, keep the discussion focused on the changes in your child’s daily routine, but also remind them that some things will stay the same.

Books for Professionals about Same-Sex Parents

CCS — Thu, 22 Sep 2011 21:59:19 +0000

Books for Young Adults about Absent Parents

CCS — Thu, 22 Sep 2011 21:57:49 +0000

Private Mediation Services

CCS — Thu, 22 Sep 2011 21:29:16 +0000

Resolutions Northwest Family Mediation Program helps families work through difficult conversations and address conflict in productive ways. Ensuring each family member has the opportunity to be heard and understood a safe place is created for family members to listen and honor each others’ perspectives. Mediation is offered to issues and conflict including: youth and family, elder care, adult sibling and couples.

1827 NE 44th Avenue, Suite 300

Portland, OR 97213

(503) 595-4890

Fee: Services offered on a sliding scale with the session fee based on family’s gross income. However, no family will be turned away due to the inability to pay.

Linda R. Scher Family Mediator and Facilitator offers mediation services surrounding issues of divorce, separation, reconciliation, child support, child custody and parenting plans, property division, step families, parent- teen, adoption, child welfare and other areas of family dispute. Scher has been providing private and confidential mediation services since 1990.

3282 SE Hawthorne Boulevard

Portland, OR 97214

(503) 232-8550

linda@schermediate.com

For information on mediation fees, click here.

Gloria Bryen

childcenteredsolutions — Thu, 22 Sep 2011 18:16:15 +0000

The Child Centered Solutions glossary is designed to help children, parents, families and professionals understand commonly used family law terms. To search a term, click on the first letter of the word to find it in our online glossary.

A | B | C | D | E | F | G | H | I | J | K | L | M | N | O | P | Q | R | S | T | U | V | W | X | Y | Z

Abandonment - When a parent leaves a child without supervision, support, parental contact or adequate care for an excessive period of time.

Access - Parenting time (previously known as visitation).

Accrual - Total amount of child support to be paid.

Acknowledgment of Paternity - A written statement, voluntarily made in which the mother and biological father of the child admit the man is the father of the child. A statement properly executed with the center for health statistics has equal legal effect as a court order.

Administrative Process - A process similar to but not the same as a judicial process. For example, child support and paternity are usually established through the administrative process, the Child Support Program.

Adoption - Legal proceeding where a person(s) takes a child or other person as their own - taking on the rights and responsibilities of a parent.

Affidavit - An affidavit is a written statement which is sworn or affirmed by you before an authorized witness.

Alimony - A payment, either of money or property, from one spouse to the other. Also known as 'Spousal Support' in Oregon.

Alternate Care - Care provided for a child when there is no parent present.

Alternative Dispute Resolution - A process designed to resolve a dispute without a traditional courtroom trial. Common types of alternative dispute resolution include mediation, arbitration and settlement conferences.

Annulment - Ending a marriage legally by declaring it void, as though it never took place.

Arrears - Money owed as a result of obligor's failure to make payments in accordance with child and spousal support guidelines.

Attorney - A person qualified to represent clients in court proceedings.

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cee — Thu, 22 Sep 2011 18:11:19 +0000

Children’s Bill of Rights During Family Conflicts

childcenteredsolutions — Thu, 22 Sep 2011 00:06:30 +0000