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Child Centered Solutions presents: When You Love Someone: The Child’s View of Parental Conflict and Divorce With Dale Siperstein, MFT, PhD, ABPP and Michael B. Donner, PhD Friday, September 13th, 2019 Smith Memorial Student Union Portland State University Approved for 6 MCLE Credits   Course Curriculum 9:00-10:30 AM Part 1 1 hour Introduction and Overview Variables Identified that Reliably Predict Different Outcomes of Children’s Reactions to Divorce Part 2 Children Across the Developmental Spectrum How Different Ages Understand their family Disruption and Cope with Separation and Conflict Infants, Toddlers and Elementary School Age 10:30-10:45 Break 10:45-12:15 PM Part 3 Adolescents; Tasks of Adolescent Development and Coping with Parental Separation 12:15-1:30 Lunch 1:30-4:30 Part 4 Tailoring Interventions 2:45 -3:00 Break 3:00- 4:30 pm Part 5 Clinicians in the Courtroom   Training Materials Power Point Slides for When You Love Someone: The Child’s View of Parental Conflict and Divorce presentation References for When You Love Someone: The Child’s View of Parental Conflict and Divorce presentation Presenter Bios Presenter CVs Articles: Tearing The Child Apart: The Contribution of Narcissism, Envy and Perverse Modes of Thought to Child Custody Wars, Michael B. Donner, PhD, Psychoanalytic Psychology, 2006, Vol. 23, No. 3, 542–553. Balancing Confidentiality: Protecting Privacy and Protecting the Public: Unbalancing Confidentiality, Michael B. Donner, Oakland, California; Considering Confidentiality Within Broader Theoretical Frameworks, Leon VandeCreek, Wright State University; Informed Consent Can Solve Some Confidentiality Dilemmas, But Others Remain, John C. Gonsiorek, University of Minnesota; and The APA Ethics Code and the Need for Balanced Confidentiality and Disclosure Decisions in Psychotherapy Celia B. Fisher, Fordham University; Professional Psychology: Research and Practice, 2008, Vol. 39, No. 3, 369–376. Ethical Standards in Custody Evaluations, Larry Nicholas, PhD & Michael B. Donner, PhD, The California Psychologist, March/April 2009. Protecting the Therapy Hour: More Thoughts on Stipulations and Other Strategies, Michael B. Donner, PhD and Adam Alban, PhD, JD, The California Psychologist, November/ December 2010. Children, Child Custody and the Clinician: An Overview, Michael B. Donner, PhD, The Journal of the California Psychological Association Division of Professional Practice, Issue #174, 2011. “Letters” and Testimony: Clinicians in the Courtroom, A document in the Division I Expertise Series (2012), Michael Donner, Ph.D., Craig R. Lareau, J.D., Ph.D., ABPP, and the 2012 Task Force, California Psychological Association. Guidelines for the Treatment of Children: Confidentiality and Consent, A document in the Division I Expertise Series (2012), Michael Donner, Ph.D., and the 2012 Task Force, California Psychological Association. A Private Mind: Holding On To a Sense of Privacy, Michael B. Donner, PhD, The California Psychologist, March/April 2012. Representing the Grieving Child, Ron Shingler, The Verdict, Alameda-Contra Costa Counties Trial Lawyers’ Association, Fall 2018.  References Austin, W. G., & Rappaport, S. (2018). 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Dr. Siperstein specializes in the treatment of children, along with personality and cognitive assessment of children, adolescents, and adults and in the treatment of children. She has been a court appointed Child Custody Evaluator, Special Master, Mediator, Co-parent Facilitator and Expert Witness in the Family, Dependency and Administrative Courts. Dr. Siperstein has provided independent psychological evaluations for the Victim of Crime Program at the State Board of Control and personal injury evaluations, primarily assessing the impact of trauma on children and adults. Recent presentations include: A Collaborative Child Assessment; Therapist and Assessor; Speaker Lecture Series through the Collaborative Assessment Association of the Bay Area (CAABA); A Collaborative Model for Educating Psychological Assessors; The Wright Experience – presented at the Society for Personality Assessment; A Retrospective Analysis of a Child Murderer through Psychological Testing Data; Therapy with Families in High Conflict Divorce – presented to the staff of the Ann Martin Children’s Center. Dr. Siperstein was the Director of Psychological Testing at the Ann Martin Children’s Center from 1991-1994. She has extensive experience in assessing and treating adults, adolescents and children from diverse populations in both inpatient and outpatient community settings, and practices from a psychodynamic perspective. She has supervised post-doctoral students in assessment at West Coast Children’s Center and has a particular interest in Therapeutic Assessment. Dr. Siperstein has been an adjunct professor at the California School of Professional Psychology and is tenured part-time faculty at The Wright Institute, teaching two year-long classes: Psychodiagnostic Assessment of Adults and Psychodiagnostic Assessment and Intervention with Children.   Michael B. Donner, PhD Michael Donner, PhD, is a licensed Psychoanalyst and Clinical and Forensic Psychologist in Oakland, California. He is the Dean of Child and Adolescent Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy Training Program, immediate Past-President of the San Francisco Center for Psychoanalysis (SFCP), a past chair of the SFCP Faculty and member of the SFCP Ethics and Impairment Committee. He teaches continuing education on law and ethics for mental health professionals in California and across the country. He was Past-Chair of the California Psychological Association (CPA) Ethics committee and spent 10 years as the Chair of the Ethics and Professional Affairs Committee of the Alameda County Psychological Association. He has served as the Chair of the of the CPA Division of Clinical and Professional Practice (Division 1) and CPA Division 1 Section on Psychoanalytic and Psychodynamic Psychotherapy. He has provided court ordered Child Custody Evaluations, Brief Focused Evaluations, Psychological and Chemical Dependency evaluations and has been a court appointed Special Master since 1996. Dr. Donner taught Law and Ethics for Psychologists, Psychodynamic Intervention, at The Wright Institute in Berkeley, California from 2000-2004. He is currently a Clinical Faculty member at The Wright Institute, providing clinical supervision for students. Dr. Donner served as a Custody Evaluator/Expert Witness at the American Academy of Matrimonial Law Trial Practicum and published Tearing The Child Apart: The Contribution of Narcissism, Envy and Perverse Modes of Thought to Child Custody Wars and Child Treatment, Parents and Privacy: What psychotherapists need to know.